How do I get the abusive narcissist to recognize himself?

If your partner is narcissist the best thing get him to go to a psychiatrist, counseling want help it is better to see a mind analyst to get some treatment.The thing is that he can not help him self doing it, and you can not understand him, when he think he is given you pleasure by what he tell you, you would be confuse and you would not keep a good conversation between you two.